Clothe yourself with Christ: The Husband Journal Number 29

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Colossians 3:12 Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering:

As followers of Christ, we are to clothe (put on Christ) ourselves with Christ.  When I think of the word “clothe”, it is a pretty strong verb.  Clothing yourself means you wear something twenty-four hours of the day.  Meaning we should clothe ourselves with Christ every minute of the day.

That seems like a pretty tall order to fill.  I feel at times I don’t measure up to that tall order at all.  And if you ask my family, I am positive I fail in some way during the day because often I feel torn in many directions throughout the day.

But the Bible is clear that we should put on bowels of mercies, kindness, humblness of mind, meekness, and longsuffering.  Wow!!  That’s quite a bit to think about.  I just pray that the Lord helps me every single day with this.

Yes, I believe with all things that showing kindness, mercy, meekness, and longsuffering starts at home with my family. This verse convicts me so much…………how many times did I say something throughout the day that wasn’t longsuffering to my husband and my children????  How many times have I been short-tempered with interruptions throughout the day?

I have a toddler in my home and I think of how she needs help with putting her clothes on.  I help my foster daughter with everything down to her socks and shoes.    The Lord knows our shortcomings and he is there to help you with this tall order.

Sometimes my husband gently reminds me that I return to “clothing myself with Christ.”

Praying today for the saints and wives with children in the home.  I pray that we all seek Christ and clothe ourselves with him so that we can live quietly with bowels of mercy, kindness, humbleness, meekness, and longsuffering.



Who can be against us? The Husband Journal Entry 28

blog pictures 012Romans 8:31  What then shall we say to these things?  if God is for us, who can be against us?

About a year after I was saved, I had a huge struggle in my mind.  There didn’t seem like a lot of peace.  I talked with my husband’s grandmother, MawMaw, about it and she related that the same thing happened to her. But MawMaw said that she called on the promises of God and the struggle in her mind left. And she felt immensely relieved.

I can’t describe the struggle I felt.  I do know that it just felt like I didn’t have peace in my mind at all.  I knew I was saved.  I knew Jesus loved me.  So I called on as many verses that I could to get the peace I needed.  And yes, it came.

I haven’t had that particular kind of struggle in my mind.  It seems as if the Lord defeated my flesh in that battle.

The above verse reminds me that God is always for us…………if we are not at peace, he wants to give us that peace because he IS our peace and he IS always for us.

How does this relate to your marriage?  You may be in a spiritual battle in your marriage.  Just know that God is for your marriage and he will never be against it.  He designed marriage itself.  Just know that the battles in your marriage are the Lord’s.  Turn over your cares to Him and stand on the promises of his Word because he is for you.


Are we just like Mephibosheth broken? The Husband Journal Entry 27

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And Mephibosheth lived in Jerusalem, because he always ate at the king’s table; he was lame in both feet.
Just a little bit of background on Mephibosheth, he was the grandson of Saul and the son of Jonathan.  King David was seeking any one left from the family of Saul to show kindness to. Mephibosheth became lame in both feet at an early age.
Mephibosheth felt unworthy to sit at the king’s table because of his lame feet.  He asked King David why should you recognize a dead dog like me? But David gave him a place at the king’s table regardless of his disability.
I feel like that some days.  I am afraid to come before the King and eat at his table. Why does God recognize a failure like me? While I try my best to do things according to scriptures, I fumble in my efforts.  Just yesterday, I was reminded of how I worded something to another fellow christian that wasn’t very nice, and it makes me think goodness why would God allow me to sit at his table? While I asked for forgiveness from this fellow christian, I am reminded that not only does God want us to sit at his table, but others with failures, hurts, and disappointments want us to sit right along with them. Thank goodness my fellow christian forgave me.
Friends we are all in the same boat.  We come with failures and brokenness.  But it is God who makes us worthy to eat at the King’s table.  We can come boldly to the throne of grace and ask whatever we need.  Not only that,  but our friends of the faith want you to sit there amongst them too……….in all of our brokenness and hurts and failures.  Because King David’s table wasn’t just for King David and Mephibosheth, it was for all of the royal family and that friend (if you have accepted Jesus in your heart) includes you!!

What is taking up your time?: The Husband Journal Entry 26

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There are so many things that can take up our time………………yes, I am guilty of the social media front.  If I am not careful, I can get on facebook too many times throughout the day. And then my mind is clogged with what is going on with others than what is happening with my own household.

The Lord told us  in the Bible to live out our lives wisely making the most of every opportunity.

Ephesians 5:15-17

15 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. 17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is.

When our minds are clogged with things that have nothing to do with our families, reexamine yourself and priorities.  Your first priority is your relationship with the Lord.  Your second priority is your relationship with your husband.  If either one of these relationships are suffering because your thoughts are things like what’s going on on the social media front, then stop getting your mind clogged up with social media.

Stay focused on the Lord, your husband, and your family.  Those are your priorities.


Is it too late?: The Husband Journal Number 25

Water liliesI am afraid that some of us (followers of Jesus) have allowed the world to snuff out our light or dreams.

I remember a few years back talking with a christian lady about adoption.  I told her that my husband and I still wanted to adopt children.  She let me know that there was no adoption agency that would be willing to give me a newborn child.  She told me that I could forget about adopting a newborn. I kind of took it to heart.

Well I can’t wait to see her now.  My husband and I are trying to adopt an infant that came into our foster care home in May.  She was at the time three days old.  As the months pass by, it seems like we are getting closer to our goal.

God has a future for you. It says so in Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

People do not know the plans God has for you.  They can talk all they want.  It is God who holds your future in His hands.  Take hold of the dreams God has put in your heart and remain steadfast for His glory.


Simon from Cyrene: The Husband Journal Entry Number 24

blog pics 005Mark 14:21  A certain man from Cyrene, Simon, the father of Alexander and Rufus, was passing by on his way in from the country, and they forced him to carry the cross.

Just picture this scene where Simon helps Jesus carry the cross.  I often think of that as a picture of what marriage is supposed to be like.

When one spouse is down and out, the other has the strength to carry through the day.

At times we may feel beaten to a pulp.  Then just simply ask your spouse to help carry the weight on your shoulders.  If God had Simon to help Jesus in Jesus’ worst moment of his earthly life, God will strengthen your spouse to carry your cross.

I have at times come to a point of tears after a day of exhaustion.  I simply ask my husband to take over the bed time routine for the kids because I need help.  That’s my cross………..caring for my children.

Be strong in the Lord,


Infertility Part 2: The Husband Journal Entry 23

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I talked in my last post about things I have learned through my spiritual walk in my infertility journey with my husband.  I am hoping this encourages someone.

Please read The Husband Journal Entry 22 for the first post.

Just to remind you of yesterday’s post.  I talked about three things that I learned.  1. Pray for grace.  2.  Don’t become bitter  3. You are blessed.

Here are a few more things.

  1. God is in control.  No matter how many times I prayed to the Lord for a child……….it is God and God alone that gives a child to you.  You can’t make yourself pregnant no matter what you do.  He is the one that makes the child in the womb.
  2. Your husband hurts as well.  You are not alone.  Your husband is just as disappointed and upset as you are.  The infertility journey is a lot of ups and downs, but mostly downs for both you and your husband. Believe me when I say that your husband is upset too.  He really is.
  3. God does not disappoint.  I have seen couples who believe in Jesus struggle with infertility……..some are eventually blessed with their own child………some adopt and are blessed………and a couple or two comes to terms with childlessness and are glad that they didn’t have children after all.  Whatever the case, the Lord does not disappoint and his timing is perfect.  We have been childless for fourteen years and finally we are in the process of adopting a baby this year.
  4. Hold on to your dream. My husband held onto the dream of having a family with children.  I had given up and thought that we were going to remain childless. But the idea of having no children in our home never set well with me.  I ached for children.  While I pushed children out of my head, my husband moved forward and we began fostering.  When the children came into the home, it was then when I realized we were going to realize our dream of having children in our home through adoption.

That’s pretty much what I have to say. My hope is that by sharing what I learned that someone else will be blessed.  If you have questions, please feel free to contact me.

Have a blessed day!!