Is it too late?: The Husband Journal Number 25

Water liliesI am afraid that some of us (followers of Jesus) have allowed the world to snuff out our light or dreams.

I remember a few years back talking with a christian lady about adoption.  I told her that my husband and I still wanted to adopt children.  She let me know that there was no adoption agency that would be willing to give me a newborn child.  She told me that I could forget about adopting a newborn. I kind of took it to heart.

Well I can’t wait to see her now.  My husband and I are trying to adopt an infant that came into our foster care home in May.  She was at the time three days old.  As the months pass by, it seems like we are getting closer to our goal.

God has a future for you. It says so in Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

People do not know the plans God has for you.  They can talk all they want.  It is God who holds your future in His hands.  Take hold of the dreams God has put in your heart and remain steadfast for His glory.



Simon from Cyrene: The Husband Journal Entry Number 24

blog pics 005Mark 14:21  A certain man from Cyrene, Simon, the father of Alexander and Rufus, was passing by on his way in from the country, and they forced him to carry the cross.

Just picture this scene where Simon helps Jesus carry the cross.  I often think of that as a picture of what marriage is supposed to be like.

When one spouse is down and out, the other has the strength to carry through the day.

At times we may feel beaten to a pulp.  Then just simply ask your spouse to help carry the weight on your shoulders.  If God had Simon to help Jesus in Jesus’ worst moment of his earthly life, God will strengthen your spouse to carry your cross.

I have at times come to a point of tears after a day of exhaustion.  I simply ask my husband to take over the bed time routine for the kids because I need help.  That’s my cross………..caring for my children.

Be strong in the Lord,


Infertility Part 2: The Husband Journal Entry 23

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I talked in my last post about things I have learned through my spiritual walk in my infertility journey with my husband.  I am hoping this encourages someone.

Please read The Husband Journal Entry 22 for the first post.

Just to remind you of yesterday’s post.  I talked about three things that I learned.  1. Pray for grace.  2.  Don’t become bitter  3. You are blessed.

Here are a few more things.

  1. God is in control.  No matter how many times I prayed to the Lord for a child……….it is God and God alone that gives a child to you.  You can’t make yourself pregnant no matter what you do.  He is the one that makes the child in the womb.
  2. Your husband hurts as well.  You are not alone.  Your husband is just as disappointed and upset as you are.  The infertility journey is a lot of ups and downs, but mostly downs for both you and your husband. Believe me when I say that your husband is upset too.  He really is.
  3. God does not disappoint.  I have seen couples who believe in Jesus struggle with infertility……..some are eventually blessed with their own child………some adopt and are blessed………and a couple or two comes to terms with childlessness and are glad that they didn’t have children after all.  Whatever the case, the Lord does not disappoint and his timing is perfect.  We have been childless for fourteen years and finally we are in the process of adopting a baby this year.
  4. Hold on to your dream. My husband held onto the dream of having a family with children.  I had given up and thought that we were going to remain childless. But the idea of having no children in our home never set well with me.  I ached for children.  While I pushed children out of my head, my husband moved forward and we began fostering.  When the children came into the home, it was then when I realized we were going to realize our dream of having children in our home through adoption.

That’s pretty much what I have to say. My hope is that by sharing what I learned that someone else will be blessed.  If you have questions, please feel free to contact me.

Have a blessed day!!

Infertility Part 1: The Husband Journal Entry 22

Botanical Gardens 003I am sharing today about what I learned through our journey as a childless couple for most of our married life.

My husband and I have been married for 17 years.  Of those, I would say that we were diligent about becoming parents for 14 of those years.

Here is what I learned through those years.

  1. Pray for grace.  There were years that I prayed consistently for the Lord to bless us with a baby.  I even found scriptures about being fruitful and multiplying the earth and stood on these scriptures for years. Then, it struck me to pray for grace while we remained childless. And the grace came.  I felt more at peace and less frustrated about being childless.
  2. You are blessed. For years, I allowed myself to feel like I wasn’t blessed because I didn’t have my “family” so to speak.  The Lord helped me to realize that I was just as blessed as others who had families with children.
  3. Don’t grow bitter.  At one point at the tail end of this journey, I grew bitter.  This bitterness spilled over into all areas of my life. Finally, I ended up losing my relationship with the Lord. I couldn’t read the bible and pray. I dropped out of church. I came to a very hard place for three full years.  I felt abandoned by God during those years. But God is good and faithful.  It took baby steps to get out of the spiritual rut I got myself into.  But the Lord brought me out of it and I did grow from it.  Now I know what bitterness can do to you so I don’t ever want to go to that hard place again.

I will continue next time with another entry on infertility and tell you more about what I learned in my spiritual walk with the Lord through this infertility journey.